THISISIT.... Me and my husband have two important dates soon. he has an interview to attend and I have in the same week a night out with the people from work.
We go out today to look for, HIM new trousers and shirt (that fit) and ME, a new dress or outfit that will look trendy-ish with my younger workmates and a bit nightclubby appropriate.
We buy something each, and this afternoon both try on our new outfits. Matt actually says, "don't come in the bedroom, I am trying on my clothes" he wants it to be a surprise of how "good" it looks!!!!!.
He eventually comes out of the bedroom in his new trousers and shirt with his choice of tie. I understand what his physique looks like so will understand that there is a certain level he can achieve. The trousers for his body look good, the shirt is a bit too white and the tie is wrong. So suggest he changes the colour of the tie. After 3-4 ties we decide on the right one and also the right length, which he has to keep adjusting. Then we discuss maybe changing the colour of the shirt and he then shows me a pale purpley shirt with matching tie. Looks great, this is it for the interview. Lots of pampering and making sure it's the right look.
So excited now as it is my turn. Historically this doesn't usually tend to be a good experience, but lets try today. Firstly I put the dress on, the dress has no sleeves, so show him me in the dress on its own first. "yeah, that looks nice." I then match it with a short cardigan, just to cover my arms.
"ah, no not really" says Matt.
Me - "what do you mean, is it the colour, I could buy a white one?"
I go back to look in the mirror.
Me "do you think it is the colour?"
At this point he is checking out his trousers in the wardrobe,
Me "DO YOU think it is the colour?, stop doing your trousers and answer me"
I go back into the hallway, to the mirror and he follows.
Me - "Do you think this will be ok for going out"
Matt - "I wouldn't wear it out"
Me "what do you mean? is it not a night club sort of dress or wear it anywhere, if that is the case then I will take it back"
Matt "well, no keep it"
Me - "where would I wear it then?"
A good 10 seconds later he had not come up with an answer, 10 seconds you say is not a long time, but I assure you it is, especially when you are waiting for a simple answer.
1,one hundred, 2, one hundred, 3, one hundred, 4, one hundred, 5, one hundred, 6, one hundred, 7, one hundred, 8, one hundred, 9, one hundred, 10, one hundred, . that is a long time.
My answer to this was, if you really can't think of anywhere I could wear this dress, then it may as well go back in the bag.....
We both don't like the shape of our bodies at the moment, but we have to wear something, so I accept things could look better, but accept how is looks and try to make sure he wears the right things.
We have agreed that I don't ask him for his opinion, as he is not really good at giving it, however, he is the only man in the house that:-
1. I can ask and
2. I would love to have an opinion from.
In the future I have decided to only ask my 2 beautiful girls and hope I get a good, honest answer. I will still continue to give him my support and opinion on his new clothes, taking into account his build and body and understanding his need to show off his new purchases..... Am I ranting, I guess I am..... this is it.
note, after reading this he has now advised me that the band around the dress, draws you attention to my stomach????? So maybe not such a good choice, but would have been nice to have this feedback before the blog.
Sunday, 26 February 2012
Friday, 24 February 2012
My New Gadget
THiSISIT.....So I haven't been on the blog for a good couple of weeks as have been so busy what with work and family etc. Oh, who am I kidding, I actually succumbed to an iphone. Not really my choice. I was given my husbands phone as he got a new iphone. The contract ran out on his, so I was entitled to an upgrade 1 hour at least later in the shop, left with a new smartphone. alas not an iphone. but no worries because within less than 24 hours, my husband was back at the shop. "My wife didn't get on with the phone given, can we change it for the iphone 3" so yes I know have one. (oops 3GS apparently this is important.
So my lack of blogging is down to this iphone. In my previous blog I mentioned about becoming easily addicted to my daughters game on the laptop. OMG I promise you the iphone is so much more addictive. I have tried to control myself. I am looking for the free games and in a couple of weeks have only purchased one game at a mere 69p!!
As a family we have almost overnight become addicted to the laptop, iphone, wii, DS and anything we can get our hands on that is electrical. This is so not good.
I convince myself that I am not addicted to the iphone, the only games I have are mystery games, grissly manor (good game) and lost city and my 2 children like them. but have now loaded temple run. HELP me. I have had conversationswith friends regarding these games and have found that they too are addicted. What is happening not only to me but them as well!!
The final straw tonight, which has made me go on the laptop, (yes another electrical device, but this is for a good cause). Matt (husband) and I waiting for a dinner to cook. Children put to bed. Both of us in the kitchen near the oven, me leaning on the kitchen sink, Matt on the breakfast bar. Neither talking to each other, Friday night, glass of win each, great music playing. The end of the week.
I look at him and say "my god the art of conversation is certainly not dead in this house" neither of us are speaking to each other. I am trying to beat my last score of temple run and have just fallen off the edge and Matt I find out later is on Twitter!!!!!
Is this our life for Friday nights. The dinner is now done. he has come off of the iphone to dish up, I will be finishing me blog..... There must be help out there. do I give up the iphone, or ban myself from the games. I am not an addict, I am not an addict, I am not an addict...... This is it.
So my lack of blogging is down to this iphone. In my previous blog I mentioned about becoming easily addicted to my daughters game on the laptop. OMG I promise you the iphone is so much more addictive. I have tried to control myself. I am looking for the free games and in a couple of weeks have only purchased one game at a mere 69p!!
As a family we have almost overnight become addicted to the laptop, iphone, wii, DS and anything we can get our hands on that is electrical. This is so not good.
I convince myself that I am not addicted to the iphone, the only games I have are mystery games, grissly manor (good game) and lost city and my 2 children like them. but have now loaded temple run. HELP me. I have had conversationswith friends regarding these games and have found that they too are addicted. What is happening not only to me but them as well!!
The final straw tonight, which has made me go on the laptop, (yes another electrical device, but this is for a good cause). Matt (husband) and I waiting for a dinner to cook. Children put to bed. Both of us in the kitchen near the oven, me leaning on the kitchen sink, Matt on the breakfast bar. Neither talking to each other, Friday night, glass of win each, great music playing. The end of the week.
I look at him and say "my god the art of conversation is certainly not dead in this house" neither of us are speaking to each other. I am trying to beat my last score of temple run and have just fallen off the edge and Matt I find out later is on Twitter!!!!!
Is this our life for Friday nights. The dinner is now done. he has come off of the iphone to dish up, I will be finishing me blog..... There must be help out there. do I give up the iphone, or ban myself from the games. I am not an addict, I am not an addict, I am not an addict...... This is it.
Wednesday, 1 February 2012
THISISIT... so much has happened, so much is going on, I have tried to write my blog for the past 1/2 hour and keep deleting it. I then wondered should I have just left my ramblings to remind me how mental my mind is at the moment. However, as you now read you will see that I did in fact delete the ramblings and started again.
What was I rambling about, in brief here are the headings.
Verbal diarrhoea
Talking too much, when you meet new people. Why do I do it? is it a bad thing? do they realise what I have done? Are they exhausted as me. This happened a couple of days ago when I met a new person and thought yep, thats what I do. But too my astonishment I realised that I did this again today when I was on an appointment, do I do this everyday?????? how worrying, must make a mental note!!!
Weighwatchers.
Didn't go tonight, was so tired from work. However, I have not really done anything this week to lose weight. I have decided I either have to do it properly of give it up and be obese all my life. I must look at the paperwork and work out what I can eat and how many propoints. It is easy to work out, but food is so nice and the wine has been great lately...
book club
Am reading a book called Home for book club. it is interesting, but a tough one to read. I will try to finish it before the next meeting, but have realised that after 2 hard slogs of books I need to read some trashy, easy to read rubbish.
However, had a lovely hot bath and read some of the book. That was until my daughter needed the bathroom and came and sat chatting to me. Chatting to my baby girl was a welcome release from the book.
The book before this one was Engleby another tough one. Maybe this is a reflection on my busy life at present. Have no energy to read too much. I did think that I could be more like Grace (the character in the book). She doesn't seem to have verbal diarrhoea, in fact the opposite, she just stands back and watches.
This is what I will try to do, but being a sociable butterfly I find this very difficult to do! so my final ramblings on my day today is ..... this is it.
What was I rambling about, in brief here are the headings.
Verbal diarrhoea
Talking too much, when you meet new people. Why do I do it? is it a bad thing? do they realise what I have done? Are they exhausted as me. This happened a couple of days ago when I met a new person and thought yep, thats what I do. But too my astonishment I realised that I did this again today when I was on an appointment, do I do this everyday?????? how worrying, must make a mental note!!!
Weighwatchers.
Didn't go tonight, was so tired from work. However, I have not really done anything this week to lose weight. I have decided I either have to do it properly of give it up and be obese all my life. I must look at the paperwork and work out what I can eat and how many propoints. It is easy to work out, but food is so nice and the wine has been great lately...
book club
Am reading a book called Home for book club. it is interesting, but a tough one to read. I will try to finish it before the next meeting, but have realised that after 2 hard slogs of books I need to read some trashy, easy to read rubbish.
However, had a lovely hot bath and read some of the book. That was until my daughter needed the bathroom and came and sat chatting to me. Chatting to my baby girl was a welcome release from the book.
The book before this one was Engleby another tough one. Maybe this is a reflection on my busy life at present. Have no energy to read too much. I did think that I could be more like Grace (the character in the book). She doesn't seem to have verbal diarrhoea, in fact the opposite, she just stands back and watches.
This is what I will try to do, but being a sociable butterfly I find this very difficult to do! so my final ramblings on my day today is ..... this is it.
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